When you’re a nice person, conflict can be a real challenge. Not that
mean people are any better at conflict; they just enjoy it more.
New research from Columbia University shows that how you handle
conflict can make or break your career. The researchers measured
something scientifically that many of us have seen firsthand—people who
are too aggressive in conflict situations harm their performance by
upsetting and alienating their peers, while people who are too passive
at handling conflict hinder their ability to reach their goals.
The secret to effective handling of conflict is assertiveness—that
delicate place where you get your needs met without bullying the other
person into submission. Assertive people strike a careful balance
between passivity and aggression (that is, they never lean too far in
either direction).
How To Handle Conflict Assertively
It’s easy to think that nice people are too passive. While that’s
often true, unchecked passivity can boil over into aggression. So there
are plenty of very nice people out there who have exhibited both
extremes of the assertiveness spectrum.
To be assertive, you need to learn to engage in
healthy conflict.
Healthy conflict directly and constructively addresses the issue at
hand without ignoring or trivializing the needs of either party. The
strategies that follow will get you there.
Consider the repercussions of silence. Sometimes
it’s hard to muster the motivation to speak up when the likelihood is
high that things will turn ugly. The fastest way to motivate yourself to
act is to fully consider the costs of not speaking up—they’re typically
far greater than not standing up for yourself. The trick is that you
need to shift your attention away from the headache that will come with
getting involved to all of the things you stand to gain from your
assertiveness.
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